Remember my mom’s clearly-stated intention to live in her own home to the end? Well, our being led to believe that we had no choice but to put her in a nursing home was the beginning of the end for my mother. Because of our denial, we did not plan accordingly, and did nothing to change the home to accommodate Mom’s potential return. The disappointment, betrayal and sense of failure she felt was visible in her eyes every time we visited, even though she would never say a word about it. She did beg my father to get her out of there. Visiting became a major trauma for them both, but he went every day, twice a day.
Fact is, once in a nursing home, my mom died fairly quickly. Technically, she aspirated, meaning she suffocated on her own fluids. But, I believe my mother decided she had had enough. I believe in my heart that she gave up, and passed away after a few months… to save us all from the financial trauma, and as an acceptance on her part that she would be not be returning home.
Stay tuned for the next installment of the Bentley Baths blog, in which I discuss how Medical Hydrotherapy® can turn ordinary water into a healing machine.